Adult Guys/Women - I need some serious advice... Please help (sorry it's long).?

That's a lot of information ... that you're keeping from your "boyfriend." Just end it already. If you're going to lie about that much stuff (and yes, not telling the truth constitutes lying), why are you bothering to be with anyone at all? Be HONEST. Tell him you just came out of a relationship, and tell him that you're not looking for a boyfriend - at the very least that you know you have no business being in a relationship for a very long time. Don't drag something out when you're with him just to have someone call you his girlfriend.